Divorce

A Quick Reference to Common Custody Schedules

There's a big "C word" in the shared parenting world: custody. Parents love their children so much, and it's hard to be satisfied with the time you have. Whether it's 80% or 20%, it never feels like enough. Hav...
Before getting a divorce

13 Things I Wish I Would Have Known Before Getting a Divorce

When my ex-husband and I decided to split, it was like being thrown into another dimension. I knew nothing about dissolving a marriage - legally speaking, nothing about lawyers or how to pay for them, nothing about custody orders or the terms inside them. Noth...

Building Confidence after Divorce

Going through a divorce can really put your self-esteem through a loop. Whether you wanted the divorce or not, either way you'll be battling some pretty confusing emotions. You might be wondering why you weren'...

5 Things You Need to Hear When He Leaves You For the Other Woman

*I recently received a heartbreaking email from a divorced mother who was having trouble getting past the fact that her ex husband left her for one of the women he cheated on her with. I've seen this type of situation many a time, unfortunately. In response, I...

How to Negotiate Custody and Support the Right Way

When my stepdaughter's mom served us paperwork last year to modify our custody agreement, my husband and I were shocked, angry, and scared. We're both conflict avoidant people, so the idea of going to court to...

How to Answer Your Child’s Questions About Divorce

When a mother and father separate, it can be hard for children to wrap their heads around. Even if they know you and their father (or mother) are splitting apart, they may not fully comprehend what that means f...

Divorce and Children: Get Over Yourself

Stop fighting over time, stop putting all your focus on counting days, stop disrespecting the other parent’s time. Just stop it. Your child loves both of his parents, and he wants to spend quality time with both of you. SO CUT IT OUT. It is not about you....

The Hardest Thing I Had to Learn as a Divorced Mom

Divorce is hard. Divorce with kids is harder. Getting divorced with kids and trying to fix the relationship to a point where you can co-parent because you want to do what’s best for the kids? That’s the harde...