Hi, Mamas! I’m Kristen,
the Stepmom half of the Kandy Apple Mama duo,
and I’m so glad you’re here!
Kandy Apple Mama is devoted to raising a better generation, a mission that I wholeheartedly stand behind. I want to be a better mom, wife, and contributor to society. I want to raise better, more kind, generous, and smarter children. I want to leave this world a better place than I found it.
Kandy Apple Mama also stands for eliminating the stigma of co-parenting and representing the new blended family. Be the change you want to see in the world.
My parents have been divorced since I was 2 years old and both remarried (my dad has remarried three times, my mom once).
I had an extraordinary example in my 2nd stepmom, Michelle. She loved me as one of her own, and I’ve carried that over to my relationship with my stepdaughter K. Her father is an extraordinary man who has pushed me to be better, encouraged me in all of my pursuits, and loved me, faults and all. I am so blessed that he came packaged with the sweetest girl.
Learn more about what it’s really like being a stepmom here. I consider it the most challenging role I’ve ever held, but easily the most rewarding.
What I Really Think about My Stepdaughter’s Mom
I’m supposed to really dislike Amanda, aren’t I? After all, she was Kevin’s first love, and she’s K’s birth mom. How can I compete with that?
Truth is, I don’t have to! I’m me. I’m Kevin’s second wife, and K’s super stepmom. It took us a little while to be comfortable with each other, but now Amanda and I are actually friends! I know it’s bizarre, but it didn’t happen overnight. It was a very natural transition from “So this is K’s mom. She seems standoffish. I guess we shouldn’t talk” to “Oh, she must really be as nervous and uncomfortable as I am” to that one night when I had to pick K up when Kevin had military training and she was so sweet. She knew that I had a fun night planned for K and told her how excited she was for her. We traded numbers and sent each other photos when she was with us, sharing all of the little moments you tend to miss when a child has to split households.
Blogging & Our Relationship
Real Talk. I was SO jealous when Amanda started Kandy Apple Mama! She was really doing it! Quitting her day job for her dream job. She gets to stay home with the girls while still making a living! Who wouldn’t be jealous? Then one day, she started sharing about some of her blogger idols and ultimately confided some of her struggles. Though I have absolutely zero experience with blogging, I do have business experience. So I gave her some advice and asked if she ever thought about bringing on a partner. I was shocked when she said yes! Lucky me! I get to join in on this incredible adventure.
I can’t even begin to tell you how these few short months blogging together have completely changed our relationship. We text each other more than I do my closest friends and family. She’s part of daily conversation between Kevin and me now – how strange, I know!
And my very favorite part of all of it? K! She’s so happy that both of her moms are best friends now. To relieve the pressure of feeling like she’s betraying one to have fun with the other or to think she has to choose sides. I’ve never seen her happier or more carefree.
What I bring to the Table: Usborne Books & More
The evidence of the importance of reading in a child’s life is undeniable. Amanda and I completely support raising a reader (find out more here). If you’re interested in some amazing books I highly recommend, check this link here (or click the button below) to explore my Usborne Books & More page. Their books are interesting, colorful, and educational.
At the end of the day, I’m here to empower women. I’ve seen the glass ceiling firsthand. I’ve witnessed sexism, and I’ve heard countless insensitive remarks. I hate that women have to fight men to the top and that we still fight each other (to be prettier, smarter, more successful).
You guys – I’m infuriated that it’s taboo for me to be friends with K’s biological mom! I want to be friends with Amanda; she’s awesome!
Plus, how amazing for our daughter that she doesn’t have to choose sides or feel like she’s betraying one of us by liking the other?
We, as women, must love and support each other.
I want my daughter to grow up thinking she can be anything she wants to be (President of the United States, a veterinarian, an astronaut, etc.). She will believe she can achieve any dream she sets her mind to; if I am certain of nothing else, it is that she will set her sights high and never settle for less than she deserves.
I am so excited to represent the new face of co-parenting, the new future of womanhood and sisterhood, and a new way of thinking outside the classroom.~
Welcome to Kandy Land, ladies!
We’re so happy to have you.