When I first heard about distancing yourself from stepchildren, I was taken completely aback. It felt counterintuitive at best, and cruel at worst. Isn't a stepmom supposed to play an active role in her stepchildren's lives and do so with a smile on her face?As a child of divorce myself, I had a hard time wrapping my brain around why a stepmom would need to disengage. I (incorrectly) assumed ... Read the Post
Signs of a Bad Stepmother
So many stepmoms I meet preface their deepest fears and biggest struggles with "I know this may make me sound like a bad stepmom, but..." and nine times out of 10, those aren't truly signs of a bad stepmother.Struggling in your new role, making mistakes, and stumbling along the way do not make you a bad stepmom.Being here, reading this article, wanting to be better... Those show me you're ... Read the Post
What to Expect When You’re Becoming a Stepmom
My reality of becoming a stepmom could not have been farther from what I expected when I first started dating a man with kids.In pop culture, we see many examples of happy moms in happy families. I was excited to be the happy mom-of-my-home in my happy blended family, and I was confident my history as a child of divorce and a preschool teaching assistant had adequately prepared me for what ... Read the Post
Confessions of an Overthinking Stepmom
I’m an occasional overthinker and it’s impossible not to fall into the trap of otherthinking as a stepmom. Nothing is as simple as it is in a first family. Everything is connected and has a past. Kids reference memories as “before the divorce” and sometimes hearing your partner’s text tone go off (Is it the ex? What does she want now?) has all the inertia to propel a stepmom full-speed into ... Read the Post
8 of the Most Common Stepmom Struggles
In my early stepmom days, I struggled alone and in silence for the longest time. I was ashamed that I was unable to navigate this role with grace, gratitude, and happiness. The reality is, I was not alone in these challenges, and neither are you. Stepmom struggles are common as you learn how to navigate this new role in a blended family.An important part of my mission at Stepmomming is to ... Read the Post
Help! I Need to Find the Right Stepmom Coach!
Can you navigate the stepmom role and find your footing on your own? Of course you can! But if you're looking for a faster, more direct, easier way to master the stepmom role and find peace in your stepfamily, then it may be time to find a stepmom coach to help.Before you sign up with the first coach you find, let's discuss three things to consider to help you identify the right coach for ... Read the Post