Growing up, I craved a “normal” life. I knew from the very beginning of time that I would get my Bachelor’s degree, find myself a normal office job, find a husband, have some babies, and live my best, normal life.
After reaching beyond my initial expectations and earning my Master’s degree, I essentially did all of the things I planned to do… found a normal office job, found a husband, accepted his babies as my own, and began living my best, normal life.
It wasn’t long ago that I was completely content with my life. I went to work, came home, my husband and I took care of the kids and the house, we watched a little TV, and we went to bed. Sounds like the American dream, right?! Sounds like everything I ever wanted.
The thought of taking on any extra task seemed overwhelming. I looked at other parents with their pyramid-scheme side hustles, or their gym addictions and thought, “Wow, how can they do it all?” Nevertheless, I was still content. I thought, “Good for them!” and I kept living my best, normal life.
It was in year two of marriage that my content, normal life completely blew up in my face. Countless opportunities were presented, and I had some big decisions to make.
Not knowing if I had the time (or the energy) to accomplish any of the things that had fallen into my lap, I talked to my husband, and we both decided to be risk takers; although, that is not the phrase we used to describe ourselves at the time.
In a three-month period, we closed on our first house and welcomed a 6-week-old puppy into the family. Within the same three months, I became the Content Manager for Stepmomming.com, and I began pursuit of my Doctor of Philosophy degree.
In case that wasn’t enough change for us, it was in the same three-month period that my husband got a big promotion at work, and his schedule changed from a regular Monday to Friday, to a rotating shift-work schedule that is sometimes during the days, and sometimes overnight. He also began pursuit of his Bachelor’s degree- from scratch- at almost 30 years old. This is the “change” I am the most proud of!
Were we scared to take on all of this change at once? Probably. So how did we do it? WHY did we do it?
The answer is simple: We wanted it all, so we made it happen. It’s really that simple.
You ALWAYS have the time and energy for the things you want and prioritize.
Parenting is exhausting. Being an adult is exhausting. The daily responsibilities can be overwhelming, and it’s easy to get caught in a complacent routine… then you blink, and five years have passed.
The struggle of “adulting” (as the kids say) means that our schedules stay pretty full, mostly comprised of important things, with very few events solely for entertainment sprinkled in. The concept of “Me Time” is often lost, and it is far too easy to call into a rut.
It is easy for parents to forget who they were before having kids. It is easy for them to sacrifice everything about their pre-child lives, all for the sake of the family. But does it have to be this way?
The motto of Stepmomming is, “It’s what you do, it’s not who you are.” This is a tough pill to swallow for parents and stepparents alike. It’s easy to get caught up in your identity as a parent in an effort to provide your children with the best possible opportunities in life.
In our world with cumbersome amounts of news at our fingertips, social media glittered with comparisons and joy killers, and everyone seeming to have a side hustle, it’s common for parents to think, “Wow, that person has it all!” Or, “Wow, I don’t have the time/energy to do the things she does!”
If you have been sitting back watching the next opportunity pass by your door, remember these words: You ALWAYS have time for the things you prioritize. Always.
If you care about something and you want to be successful at it, you find a way to make it happen, no excuses.
If the thought of a new venture energizes you, then you need to pursue it. If you wait too long, the opportunity may never present itself again.
Now, let’s not forget, as with any new endeavor, the support of your spouse is critical. Marriage is one big compromise, deciding together what decision will be best for the family, every single day. If you are feeling unsupported by your spouse, it’s important to address that, like, yesterday.
Is NOW the Right Time to Take a Risk? Breaking the Cycle of Complacency
Hey, you! You, over there! You, afraid to take the next big jump… afraid to shake up your routine…
Stop being complacent. Stop with the self-doubt. Stop comparing yourself to others, or worrying what others may think, and go do what you’ve had your heart set on!
This is the sign you’ve been looking for. This is your wake up call. This is it.
The time is now. I’ve got your back.
P.S. Looking for a reminder? Grab your free print here. Frame it, set it as your phone background, or put it in your planner to remind you daily. Just don’t forget it. The right time to take a risk? Right now!