When I started dating my now-husband, I was challenged in ways I never expected.Having an ex around was a new concept to me. Having an ex around who made decisions that impacted my life was hard. Just having to constantly see her or hear about her was hard. Seeing how she made my boyfriend feel was hard. But that was just the start of it all…On top of that, I was developing relationships ... Read the Post
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A Stepmom Lesson: Growing Up Without Parents
As a stepmom, I regularly reflect on the dynamic of having more than two parents and what type of impact that may be having on my stepkids. On the other hand, something I never reflect on is growing up without parents. Why would I?!Well, the fact of the matter is, I was once a child growing up without parents… and up until today, I didn’t think it was impacting my adult life.A Stepmom ... Read the Post
Top 3 Tips for Time Management during the Holidays
Everyone thinks their family has drama, but I’m pretty sure mine takes the cake. I was raised by a series of relatives, all who refused to speak to each other. Traditions were few and far between. When I turned 18 and went to college, I knew I needed to master time management during the holidays in order to spend quality time with my whole family, despite the chaos.My family is divided into 4+ ... Read the Post
Getting Ready for the Holidays in a Blended Family
Things get SO complicated around the holidays in a blended family. When are you visiting your family? His? When will you have your stepchild(ren)? Do you get a gift for the ex? Her husband? Their children? Does Santa visit both houses?It's hard to NOT be overwhelmed with the logistics alone. Add in the emotions that come with stepmomming during the holidays, and it's no wonder we're all aboard ... Read the Post
On the Edge: The Problem of Stepmom Burnout
I dare you not to look away from what I’m about to tell you. According to the US Census Bureau, 72% of second marriages with children don’t last 5 years. That means almost three-quarters of stepfamilies are heading for the gutter.3 out of 4 stepmoms are in a situation so difficult it can’t be repaired, and that truly breaks my heart.I feel for the men who thought they could finally get it ... Read the Post