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24 Things to Stop Worrying About in 2024

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Stepmomming ain’t easy.

Can I get an amen? This life is tough stuff. But I’ve found that it’s exponentially MORE difficult if you don’t have the right frame of mind. Which is why I’ve put together this list of the top things to stop worrying about.

When you can look past some of the situations that aren’t deserving of your time and energy, you’ll ensure peace of mind and happiness.

Wouldn’t it be a dream come true if you found true peace in your stepmom role in 2024?

If you’re ready to make this your year, you’ll stop worrying about these 24 things.

1. How Others View your Parenting Role

Let’s be real here. Your friends don’t get it. Your mom doesn’t get it. Society doesn’t get it.

The only people who get it and won’t tell you “You know what you were signing up for” are other stepmoms. So, stop worrying about how others view your parenting role. Stop letting their ignorance inhibit your happiness.

I get it. It stings when someone says you’re not a “real mom.” But you have to stop worrying about it!

Worrying will not change their perceptions, and it will not change your contribution.

2. What’s Happening at the Other Parent’s House

Yup. I said it. Not what kind of food they’re eating, not what time their bedtime is, not how many reading minutes they’re logging. None of it.

Who can you change? You. Who can you influence? Those under your roof. Who can you not change or influence? The ex.

So STOP stressing about it! The time to eliminate unnecessary stressors is now.

3. What your T-Shirt Should Read

Do you feel like a Mama Bear to your hubby’s Papa Bear? Then get the damn shirt. Stop overthinking it.

4. What the Other Parent is Posting on Social Media

If you are worried about what your stepchildren’s other parent is posting on social media, it is time to BLOCK THEM. Don’t unfollow. Don’t mute. Do not pass go and collect $200. Block them.

There is absolutely no justified reason that their social media feed should cost you a second of happiness or peace. Nope. Not a single one.

5. The Other Parent’s Last Name

Stop worrying about if your partner’s ex still has your partner’s last name. I 100% understand that you are the only Mrs. Hunkalicious now and that the ex missed out on that, but you worrying about the ex’s name is only causing YOU discomfort. They couldn’t care less that it bothers you (Or worse, the ex may feed off of your discomfort).

Also, it’s likely the ex just wants their name to match their child’s, and you can’t fault them for that. You’d want the same.

6. Your Co-Parent’s Opinion of your Decisions

Do you believe that you’re a skilled decision maker? Are you a capable adult and parent? Then stop letting anyone’s opinion—especially the other parent’s—affect your decisions.

If you’re concerned with their response to your decision before you even make it, you are spending far too much time thinking about the ex and not enough time thinking about you.

In 2024, you will be your biggest priority. Not anyone else. Got it?


7. What Anyone Thinks about you Having a Baby

There are people who think you shouldn’t have another baby, and there are people who have been asking you since before you were married when you were going to have another. Some think you’re too young, and others still think you’re too old. A friend advocates that you’ll be the best mom while others express their doubts.

Do not allow one more second to pass by worrying about what anyone else has to say about you and your partner’s reproduction.

Don’t worry about, how, when (or if) to tell the mom that you are pregnant, what they will think or say, about your in-laws, or your stepchildren. Who is your biggest priority in 2024? That’s right.

8. The Effect on Others when you Enforce Boundaries

You have boundaries as a stepmom, right? If you don’t, you’re going to start by setting some. If you do, you’re going to start shamelessly enforcing them in 2024. It doesn’t matter if the ex, the kids, your partner, or anyone else is annoyed or inconvenienced by you defending your boundaries.

They were put in place to protect you, and that’s exactly where they’re going to stay, unapologetically.

9. Who is Friends with the Other Parent on Social Media

Is your mother-in-law friends with the other parent on Facebook? Does your sister-in-law follow her on Instagram? Does that family friend love to gossip about what the ex has been pinning on Pinterest?

In 2024, it’s not going to matter, babe. You’re so past worrying about who is connected with your stepchildren’s other family that it’s not even going to phase you. It’s not going to cost you your peace this year because it’s simply not worth your time or your mental real estate.

10. Your Partner’s “Firsts”

Your partner already experienced their “firsts” without you. First love, first marriage, first baby in the baby carriage – and that can wear down a stepmom spirit more than anything else blended family life hurls at you.

But chin up, babe. You may not be the first, but you’re the last.

You’re the one that gets forever.

Don’t let their past rob you of your present or your future. Stop worrying about the “firsts” this year and forevermore.

11. Comments about the Other Parent

You know those painful moments when your stepkids praise their mom for doing things you also do? And you’re never acknowledged for doing those things?

That awesome stepmom double standard? Yep. You’re going to stop worrying about that in 2024. Don’t let it phase you as you head into the new year because it just doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things.

12. The Day you Celebrate Holidays

Whether it’s Mother’s Day, a birthday, or Thanksgiving, don’t let any of the holidays bring you down in 2024. There is nothing special about a specific day of the year; it’s the associations you have with the day that make it significant—not the date on the calendar. 

Therefore, if you need to celebrate Mother’s Day a week later (on Stepmother’s Day – yep, it’s a thing!), a birthday a day or two later, or Thanksgiving on Saturday instead of Thursday, then that’s perfectly okay because there is not anything significant about a calendar day.

Be flexible and don’t let holidays or celebrations cause you stress or a moment of unhappiness in 2024. You’re better than that.

13. Competition Between Houses

This is a HUGE one, friend, so listen up.

Don’t spend time worrying about whether your stepchildren prefer your house or the ex’s, whether your stepchildren like you or their other parent better, whom they run to first after a dance recital or soccer game.

Stop trying to be the better home. Don’t focus on one-upping. Stop comparing. Stop, stop, stop! It’s not a competition; it’s a collaboration and a team effort.

14. Your In-Laws

Have you read about what I really want to tell my mother-in-law?

In the new year, don’t let your in-laws and their sometimes insensitive or ignorant gestures and comments offend you. They’re sometimes overbearing and get in the way, but they love your partner. Try to focus on the good intentions and stop worrying about their reactions, their comments, and any shade they might throw your way.

15. What your Instagram Feed Looks Like

I’ve heard stepmoms fret about their partners having old photos with the ex in them on Facebook, stress about their partners not tagging them in posts on Facebook, and express concern about what others might think of them based on their social posts.

The time has come to stop stressing about social media. Don’t worry about their social media, and don’t worry about yours. You have bigger priorities in the new year!

16. What Used to Be The Ex’s or Theirs

Are you living in the same house your partner lived in with their ex? Do you share some of the same furniture or accent pieces? Does it make you cringe?

I totally get it. No one wants that reminder of their life before you. But here’s the thing – it’s an inanimate object. It doesn’t need to be a reminder of anything. It serves a purpose.

A house puts a roof over your head. A couch provides seating for family and guests. A frame can house their wedding photo or a picture from your summer family vacation.

We assign value to things. It’s only cringe-worthy if you decide it is. If you stop worrying and change your perspective, it’s a great way to save money and repurpose.

17. Your Stepchildren’s Clothes

Did the ex send your stepchild in a jacket that’s two sizes too small? Or maybe forget to send back that beautiful dress of your stepdaughter’s? Does the ex always send ratty clothes and you lose beautiful ones which are never returned home?

The reality is, this battle will never end, friend. Your stepchildren are transitioning homes. They are taking all sorts of belongings (not just clothes!) with them as they transition.

Do your best to keep plenty of clothes on hand and treat the ex the way you’d want to be treated. Send her clothes back as soon as they arrive. And if your stepchild returns home in something you don’t approve of, then change the outfit and set it aside.

It’s really that simple. Work to simplify and de-stress your life in the new year. Don’t let the little things bother you.

18. What Your Kids are Wearing

Along those same lines, stop stressing about what your stepchildren are wearing. 

If they were sent to school in an outfit that is inappropriate for the weather, ugly, or simply unstylish, don’t sweat it! 

In 2024, you’re not going to rush to the rescue with a change of clothes and a hairbrush. This is the year you’re going to let it go and focus on more important things. 

(And if you’re upset at me about this one, here’s my reasoning: it is far more embarrassing to be pulled out of class to change clothes than wearing the original outfit. Plus, oftentimes, children pick out their own mismatched clothes, and changing them from that outfit damages their confidence and stifles their artistic spirit.)

19. Rigid Rules and Schedules

Does your partner’s general apathetic nature make you want to scream? Their laissez-faire approach to bedtime, greater allowance for screen time, or lack of structure and rules.

Take a page out of your partner’s book in 2024 and just say no to rigid rules. If bedtime comes ten minutes later this evening because you’re all enjoying time as a family, that’s alright!

Don’t be so wound up in the new year. Breathe more, stress less.

20. Your Co-Parents’ Petty Behavior

Does the ex do things just to piss you off? Or to inconvenience you? Does her new partner send you over the edge by going out of their way to be petty?

Stop feeding into it! Do not give in to the immaturityby responding, by allowing it to cause you to react, or by even worrying about it.

You will encounter petty people your entire life. Learning to look past those actions without a second thought is a necessary life skill.

21. What Your Stepchild Calls You (Within Reason)

I’m not above admitting I used to love when strangers would mistake me for my stepdaughter’s mom. It was validating and rewarding. 

In the same regard, I’d be embarrassed if my stepdaughter called me by name in public; I thought those around us would judge us if they heard a child call her mother by her name… or worse, it would look as if I was the babysitter instead of a parent.

Later, she’d ask if she could call me “Mom” once we were married, and I immediately worried about her mom’s reaction.

One day I realized I was worrying about others’ reaction to what my stepdaughter called me and that energy was much better spent nurturing our relationship instead. So, if your stepchild has a respectful name for you, don’t overthink it! 

There are plenty more important things to spend your time thinking about.

22. The Answers to Questions You Don’t Really Want to Hear

How many times have you asked your partner questions that you don’t really want to hear the answers to? Have you gone down the social media black hole scrolling years and years back?

Stop putting yourself in a position to be disappointed or to receive information that could haunt you for days, months, years to come… 2024 is your year!

23. If You Can Really Do This for the Rest of Your Life

If you’re like every other stepmom I’ve ever met or worked with, you’ve wondered, at least once, if you’re really cut out for this, or if you can really do this for the rest of your life.

When I first met Kevin, I had no idea what I was signing up for. I thought I would get to play house every few days, hang out with his sweet, adorable daughter…Oh boy, I was so sweet and naive.

24. Anyone Else’s Opinion on Your “Ours Baby”

This year, my husband and I finally welcomed a baby of our own. Our family grew from 3 to 4, and it brought changes to our dynamics and lots of opinions from others. But it’s what we wanted, and I am so glad we didn’t let the potential implications of that decision deter us from what we knew was right for us and for our family.

If you want to add a baby to the family but you’re worried about how the ex, your stepchildren, or anyone else may react to that change, I encourage you to prioritize your peace, your needs, and your relationship over anyone else’s. If you allow someone else’s opinion or possible reactions dictate your decisions, it’s a sure fire path to resentment. Trust your gut.

As your stepmom coach, it’s my job to help you figure out the rest. You deserve to have your needs met and desires fulfilled this year, stepmom friend.

Stepmomming is unbelievably complex and challenging, but with the right tools, you won’t have to doubt if you can do this for the rest of your life…You’ll feel adequately equipped and confident navigating your role.

If you’re looking for guidance to master life as a stepmom, apply for stepmom support coaching to see how Stepmomming can ensure 2024 is your year!

I’d love to help you find more peace and happiness in your blended family. You deserve to love your blended family life!

P.S. If you’re still in the thick of the holiday season, this might just be the permission you’ve been waiting on…

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